5 Essential Anchors for Every Mom’s Journey

It might not seem like it, mama, but you are changing the world. Those small, faithful things you are doing? They are adding up to big things. In this unpredictable world, you are providing a safe haven for young souls, souls that will someday go out and put their mark on the world. There is nothing small about being everything for a young child, nothing insignificant about helping them see that there are good and noble things for which to live. The world is full of broken souls – and you can help build life into a child who will be whole, healthy, and flourishing. What are some anchors that have helped me in my mama journey? Here are just a few…and while they might not be totally new to you, be encouraged that you are doing the right thing by prioritizing them.

Be consistent – Providing rhythms and order for your children is a hard but worthwhile goal to attain to. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but simple things like regular wake times, meals and bedtimes, can go a long way to provide a settledness in their souls. When children know what to expect, they feel like all is well in the world. Posting a simple rhythm chart with what to expect can be helpful to older children, even getting them involved in the plan for the day. Soon they will be able to help with chores and the flow of the day.

Read together – There’s so much research that supports the value of reading together with children – not only are you helping to broaden their vocabulary at a young age, but you are also introducing them to virtue, heroes, big ideas, and friends. And the cuddles are so special! Make a hot drink, pile on cozy blankets, light a candle. These are special times that won’t last forever.

Gather together – Eating meals as a family and with friends teaches so many life skills, largely that life is about more than just me! As we prepare a meal to enjoy together (and involving them is so fun and good!) we are thinking about the needs of others, opening our hearts to each other, and enjoying the blessings God has given us as a family and community. Children learn manners, how to interact socially, how to accept those of different mindsets and value systems, and more.

Simplify – with the holidays coming and the desire to make a special time for your family, it can be hard to not want to do it all. Choosing a few things to focus on, and do well, will go a long way for little people. A frazzled mama is not what they need! Choose a simple advent reading or several picture books, find a couple crafts you all want to try, and make some cookies for a neighbor. In the end, they will remember how you loved them, and if you were a peaceful mama, more than how picture perfect the holiday was.

Find delight in God – Your relationship with our Creator is so much more important than anything else on this list. And yet, as a young mama, it can be hard to carve out the time to be quiet for a few minutes, let alone extended prayer time that you may have had before children. But 10-15 minutes before the children wake, even just sitting up in bed and devoting the day to God, followed by moments throughout the day where you surrender your heart to Him, will truly change the course of your day, weeks, and months. These small moments add up, just as your daily faithfulness to your family does. As I said earlier, you are changing the world, mama. Don’t lose heart in this good work you are doing. We need faithful mamas like you!

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” -Galatians 6:9

The blessing of limitations

As summer turns to fall, the weather cools, and the days shorten, we can start to feel a shift. Perhaps it is the understanding that we won’t have as many lazy summer days – limits on our energy level. Perhaps we need to budget for Christmas – limits on our spending. Perhaps we are busier with kids’ activities – limits on our schedule. What limits are you facing? Is it health related? Are there relational struggles that plague you, either in your family or outside it? Whether we want to admit it or not, we all have limits. It can be humbling to admit. Perhaps this is why so many of us, myself included, can go past our limits in any area. But I’m continuing to learn the blessing of limitations, and want to invite you to share in that.

I have so enjoyed The Nature of Rest, by Eryn Lynum, for a summer read. In this book, I have seen how God designed both nature and humanity to need a regular Sabbath. What happens if we do not honor our own limitations? It can happen slowly, over time, but we will eventually be faced with burn out and frustration. Sadly, many do not realize this until it is hard to make changes, whether it is with spending, health, or another area. But why are limits a blessing? I believe it is because they force us to rely on God’s provision, which is so much more amazing than what we can do in our own strength.

“For thus said the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel, In returning and rest you shall be saved; in quietness and in trust shall be your strength.” – Isaiah 30:15 ESV

Over the past few years, I have wrestled with hormonal shifts as I’ve entered mid-life. It has been humbling to say the least, as I’ve experienced many physical and emotional challenges, as well as lost sleep and unpredictable energy levels. But I have found so much mercy and grace from the Lord on this path, and seeing His provision in amazing ways encourages me that He will continue to provide in other areas. But it has also revealed areas of sin in my life, kept me on my knees in prayer, and caused me to stay connected in marriage and with friends. It has inspired regular exercise and time in the Word. It caused me to reach out for community in new ways (love this group, which opens again soon!) It has shown me again, that I cannot do life on my own.

What challenges are you facing? How is facing your limits causing you to rely more deeply on God and others? How can you praise God for his good design in making you the way you are? Share in the comments!

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” – Ephesians 3:20-21 ESV

When rest is elusive – and some ideas to help

What a lovely several months it has been since I last sat down to write and converse with you all. Our boys have finished another school year, we made it through multiple holidays with joy, and the summer is upon us! How is your summer going? Is it full of lazy and relaxing days, or is the pace too much? I find myself somewhere in between. We have had very busy weeks lately, punctuated with days of rest as we are able to squeeze them in. But I find that the Lord always provides what we need.

This summer I am reading several good books, and I find that to be such a welcome respite when my mind and calendar can threaten to overwhelm me. (Scroll to the bottom to see the complete list of what I am reading/ have finished lately)…One book in particular, The Nature of Rest, by Eryn Lynum, has been encouraging to discuss with friends, as we all seek to live in a Sabbath mindset. From hummingbirds and fairy shrimp, to the rhythms of the sun and moon, we have found that God is all around us if we take a moment to abide in him, particularly by enjoying his handiwork in creation. How are you spending the quiet moments of your day? Here are a few other ways I am squeezing in some “Sabbath moments” as I go. (These are not affiliate links…)

LindyWell Pilates has been such a blessing to me, as well as short morning walks. I find that even 15-20 min of moving my body reaps great dividends.

Dwell Audio Bible – the short daily devotion is so good for a mid-morning pick me up! I usually try to read a little more of a lengthy devo in the early mornings, but when I didn’t sleep well, and the kids wake before I do, listening to this together over breakfast is such a good thing too.

Verse card affirmations – I have a few different pretty verse cards to look over, but a free one from Ann Voskamp is a favorite. I have been writing the full verses out on the back and popping these in my purse or by my morning reading chair to go over.

Daily pauses – John Eldredge has a great app for this, but sneaking quiet moments throughout the day in a closet, popping out on the patio for a few minutes while the boys rest in the afternoon, or by the kitchen sink is such a treat. Connecting with the Father is always the best part(s) of my day!

Day one app – I have kept up with this for several years, though not as much as I’d like this past year. However, I do try to record my thoughts and a few pictures several times a month. Daily would be even better! Keeping track regularly of my gratitude is life-changing and set the stage for a healthy marriage for us.

Family Life radio – This has been such a gift to me in my quest to be on my phone less! We have an old Tivoli radio, and thankfully a local Family life station that I can enjoy while I work in the kitchen.

As promised, my list of books:

-The Meaning of Marriage

-Switch on Your Brain

-Count the Night by Stars (finished this quickly, as it was sooo good!)

-Discipline that Connects with Your Child’s Heart

-Just Mercy

-At Home in Mitford (another fiction book I’m enjoying before bed)

What I’m reading with the kids:

-The Green Ember

-The Railway Children

-Genesis : Herein is Love, vol.1 – by Nancy Ganz

Have a great day in the Lord!